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"You have no neutral relationships, for every one of them is either helping you or hindering you and holding you back. You are either gaining strength or losing strength to every one of these relationships." | "You have no neutral relationships, for every one of them is either helping you or hindering you and holding you back. You are either gaining strength or losing strength to every one of these relationships." | ||
| − | <ref>''The Great Waves of Change'', Chapter 5: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-4/great-waves-change/the-deep- | + | <ref>''The Great Waves of Change'', Chapter 5: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-4/great-waves-change/the-deep-evaluation The Deep Evaluation (June 3, 2008])</ref> |
“Every relationship is either strengthening you or weakening you, for there are no neutral relationships. Everyone casts influence on one another, and that influence is either strengthening you and bringing you closer to [[Knowledge]], or it is weakening you and taking you further away.” | “Every relationship is either strengthening you or weakening you, for there are no neutral relationships. Everyone casts influence on one another, and that influence is either strengthening you and bringing you closer to [[Knowledge]], or it is weakening you and taking you further away.” | ||
<ref>Spiritual Community (March 11, 2011)</ref> | <ref>Spiritual Community (March 11, 2011)</ref> | ||
| − | ==Foundational | + | ==Foundational relationships== |
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| + | “God is preparing you for the right relationships, the ones that will make all the difference, the ones that will bring forth the power of [[Knowledge]] within yourself, the ones that will encourage you to discover your deeper nature and with it your greater purpose for being in the world.” | ||
| + | <ref name="lar">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/love-and-relationships Love and Relationships] (April 21, 2011)</ref> | ||
“Therefore, we emphasize the value of your relationships to you who now seek to reclaim [[Knowledge]]. These relationships must be imbued with the Knowledge that you are reclaiming. Then they will have the stability, the efficacy and the grace that your Knowledge contains for you. For only relationships based upon Knowledge can carry the Wisdom that [[Knowledge]] will exert within the world. Relationships based upon personal attraction or personal [[fantasy]] do not have the foundation to carry [[Knowledge]] and will fail abruptly in the presence of the demands and requirements of a true life.” <ref>''Steps to Knowledge'', Step 249</ref> | “Therefore, we emphasize the value of your relationships to you who now seek to reclaim [[Knowledge]]. These relationships must be imbued with the Knowledge that you are reclaiming. Then they will have the stability, the efficacy and the grace that your Knowledge contains for you. For only relationships based upon Knowledge can carry the Wisdom that [[Knowledge]] will exert within the world. Relationships based upon personal attraction or personal [[fantasy]] do not have the foundation to carry [[Knowledge]] and will fail abruptly in the presence of the demands and requirements of a true life.” <ref>''Steps to Knowledge'', Step 249</ref> | ||
“We say cultivate [[Knowledge]] and Knowledge will bring to you all relationships you truly need. Those you do not truly need will find no purpose there, and so your life will not be hindered and held back by inappropriate engagements.” | “We say cultivate [[Knowledge]] and Knowledge will bring to you all relationships you truly need. Those you do not truly need will find no purpose there, and so your life will not be hindered and held back by inappropriate engagements.” | ||
| − | <ref>[ | + | <ref>''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I'', Chapter 13: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-1/spiritual-community Spiritual Community]</ref> |
“The greatest evidence of a person’s [[Self-Knowledge|self-understanding]] is the nature and the quality of the relationships that they establish around themselves.” | “The greatest evidence of a person’s [[Self-Knowledge|self-understanding]] is the nature and the quality of the relationships that they establish around themselves.” | ||
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“Here people try to offset their sense of insecurity by securing partnerships with others. As a result, they form relationships based upon weakness and not upon strength.” | “Here people try to offset their sense of insecurity by securing partnerships with others. As a result, they form relationships based upon weakness and not upon strength.” | ||
| − | <ref name="ltwok3">'' | + | <ref name="ltwok3">''Living The Way of Knowledge'', Chapter 3: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-3/living-way-knowledge/essential-relationships-others The Pillar of Relationships]</ref> |
“And the person who will do you the most harm could well be someone who is totally enchanting to you and who seems to fit the absolute picture of what you are trying to acquire for yourself.” | “And the person who will do you the most harm could well be someone who is totally enchanting to you and who seems to fit the absolute picture of what you are trying to acquire for yourself.” | ||
| − | <ref name="wgcII">''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume | + | <ref name="wgcII">''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume II'', Chapter 6: [http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-2/discernment Discernment]</ref> |
“Your progress here can only truly be thwarted by your misapplication in relationships.” | “Your progress here can only truly be thwarted by your misapplication in relationships.” | ||
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“Without [[Knowledge]], relationship is trial and error only. There are many people who have spent their [[Life Force|primal energy]] on relationships with very little to show for it. They have wasted their lives, and yet they have justified this waste by saying that they have grown personally and that they have learned so much. But they are right back where they began. They are alone and they are still seeking for a meaningful union.” | “Without [[Knowledge]], relationship is trial and error only. There are many people who have spent their [[Life Force|primal energy]] on relationships with very little to show for it. They have wasted their lives, and yet they have justified this waste by saying that they have grown personally and that they have learned so much. But they are right back where they began. They are alone and they are still seeking for a meaningful union.” | ||
| − | <ref name="wgc5">[ | + | <ref name="wgc5">''Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I'', Chapter 5: [https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-5/wisdom-greater-community-volume-1/marriage-consummate-relationship-devotion Marriage]</ref> |
“Falling in love may be a wonderful dream, but it does not assure a real relationship at all. A real relationship is built upon compatibility, shared values and a commensurate level of strength and involvement in the world. Here if a strong person unites with a weak person, the strong person will become weaker. That is why if you want to become strong, you must be with someone who is strong.” | “Falling in love may be a wonderful dream, but it does not assure a real relationship at all. A real relationship is built upon compatibility, shared values and a commensurate level of strength and involvement in the world. Here if a strong person unites with a weak person, the strong person will become weaker. That is why if you want to become strong, you must be with someone who is strong.” | ||
| − | <ref>[ | + | <ref>[https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/message-young-peopleThe New Message for Young People] (Aug 18, 2008)</ref> |
“It is [[Knowledge]] that will bring the great relationships to you. It is not your prancing around, making a fool of yourself and degrading yourself in every conceivable way to try to attract the attention and the approval of some person.” | “It is [[Knowledge]] that will bring the great relationships to you. It is not your prancing around, making a fool of yourself and degrading yourself in every conceivable way to try to attract the attention and the approval of some person.” | ||
| − | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/listening-knowledge Listening for Knowledge (September 24, 2009) | + | <ref>[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/listening-knowledge Listening for Knowledge] (September 24, 2009)</ref> |
“Wrong [[Decision making|decisions]] in relationships have disabled and disarmed many a promising person in the world. Many have lost their way and many have lost their chance in life as a result of making [[Decision making|decision]]s here without [[Knowledge]].” | “Wrong [[Decision making|decisions]] in relationships have disabled and disarmed many a promising person in the world. Many have lost their way and many have lost their chance in life as a result of making [[Decision making|decision]]s here without [[Knowledge]].” | ||
<ref name="ltwok3"/> | <ref name="ltwok3"/> | ||
| − | "If you commit yourself to momentary [[attraction]]s, [[time]] will be very disappointing to you." <ref name="dir">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/discernment-in-relationships Discernment in Relationships (February 13, 2009) | + | "If you commit yourself to momentary [[attraction]]s, [[time]] will be very disappointing to you." <ref name="dir">[http://www.newmessage.org/the-message/other-revelations/discernment-in-relationships Discernment in Relationships] (February 13, 2009)</ref> |
==References== | ==References== | ||
Latest revision as of 23:47, 27 February 2020
“A relationship is only as good as the strength that its participants bring to it. It is the sum of your accomplishments.” [1]
Directives
"Build real relationships. Begin with your relationship with Knowledge and develop character by developing patience, forbearance, restraint, objectivity, compassion, the ability to observe others and the ability to have your life be undefined. This builds character, and with this you gain a greater capacity for experience. This is Wisdom. And in order for you to be a vehicle for Knowledge in life-to be an inspiration to others and to give your life wholeheartedly-you must have this foundation and you must have your essential relationships." [2]
No neutral relationships
"You have no neutral relationships, for every one of them is either helping you or hindering you and holding you back. You are either gaining strength or losing strength to every one of these relationships." [3]
“Every relationship is either strengthening you or weakening you, for there are no neutral relationships. Everyone casts influence on one another, and that influence is either strengthening you and bringing you closer to Knowledge, or it is weakening you and taking you further away.” [4]
Foundational relationships
“God is preparing you for the right relationships, the ones that will make all the difference, the ones that will bring forth the power of Knowledge within yourself, the ones that will encourage you to discover your deeper nature and with it your greater purpose for being in the world.” [5]
“Therefore, we emphasize the value of your relationships to you who now seek to reclaim Knowledge. These relationships must be imbued with the Knowledge that you are reclaiming. Then they will have the stability, the efficacy and the grace that your Knowledge contains for you. For only relationships based upon Knowledge can carry the Wisdom that Knowledge will exert within the world. Relationships based upon personal attraction or personal fantasy do not have the foundation to carry Knowledge and will fail abruptly in the presence of the demands and requirements of a true life.” [6]
“We say cultivate Knowledge and Knowledge will bring to you all relationships you truly need. Those you do not truly need will find no purpose there, and so your life will not be hindered and held back by inappropriate engagements.” [7]
“The greatest evidence of a person’s self-understanding is the nature and the quality of the relationships that they establish around themselves.” [8]
"In the Greater Community, there are no powerful individuals. There are only powerful relationships.” [9]
“Great truth is a product of great relationship.” [10]
Weakness in relationships
“Here people try to offset their sense of insecurity by securing partnerships with others. As a result, they form relationships based upon weakness and not upon strength.” [2]
“And the person who will do you the most harm could well be someone who is totally enchanting to you and who seems to fit the absolute picture of what you are trying to acquire for yourself.” [11]
“Your progress here can only truly be thwarted by your misapplication in relationships.” [11]
“Without Knowledge, relationship is trial and error only. There are many people who have spent their primal energy on relationships with very little to show for it. They have wasted their lives, and yet they have justified this waste by saying that they have grown personally and that they have learned so much. But they are right back where they began. They are alone and they are still seeking for a meaningful union.” [12]
“Falling in love may be a wonderful dream, but it does not assure a real relationship at all. A real relationship is built upon compatibility, shared values and a commensurate level of strength and involvement in the world. Here if a strong person unites with a weak person, the strong person will become weaker. That is why if you want to become strong, you must be with someone who is strong.” [13]
“It is Knowledge that will bring the great relationships to you. It is not your prancing around, making a fool of yourself and degrading yourself in every conceivable way to try to attract the attention and the approval of some person.” [14]
“Wrong decisions in relationships have disabled and disarmed many a promising person in the world. Many have lost their way and many have lost their chance in life as a result of making decisions here without Knowledge.” [2]
"If you commit yourself to momentary attractions, time will be very disappointing to you." [15]
References
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge Continuation Training, Step 78
- ↑ 2.0 2.1 2.2 Living The Way of Knowledge, Chapter 3: The Pillar of Relationships
- ↑ The Great Waves of Change, Chapter 5: The Deep Evaluation (June 3, 2008)
- ↑ Spiritual Community (March 11, 2011)
- ↑ Love and Relationships (April 21, 2011)
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 249
- ↑ Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I, Chapter 13: Spiritual Community
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge Continuation Training, Step 41
- ↑ Preparing for the Greater Community, Chapter 6
- ↑ Steps to Knowledge, Step 25
- ↑ 11.0 11.1 Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume II, Chapter 6: Discernment
- ↑ Wisdom from The Greater Community Volume I, Chapter 5: Marriage
- ↑ New Message for Young People (Aug 18, 2008)
- ↑ Listening for Knowledge (September 24, 2009)
- ↑ Discernment in Relationships (February 13, 2009)